WHY POSTING DETAILS OF YOUR RELATIONSHIP ON THE SOCIAL MEDIA

Just because you have made little progress, doesn’t mean you need to announce it to the whole world. Ladies, I know we get excited sometimes but please let’s us keep luscious details of our relationships off the social media. Yes, I know you have a man now but must all your social media apps know everything you are doing with Bae? or must we get notifications about everywhere you are going with Bae? NO! The day you break up; social media will also know, so please, I advise that you keep your relationship business- Private. In fact, some of the ladies that post things like: “Bae is amazing”, “Bae is Bae”, “Bae bought me a Gucci bag”, “Bae & I enroute Paris”…some of them are in a relationship with themselves and some of them are being beaten up black & blue, so please stop comparing yourself to these social media pretenders. I have seen this in real life and I cried for the lady when I heard, so I know what I am saying. However, some ladies are genuinely very happy, yet they don’t flood your timelines with their “Bae gists”. Just because it is not being posted, doesn’t mean it is not happening.

So ladies, please stop changing your DP with pictures of you and “Bae” every time, I am not saying you shouldn’t show off your relationship if that’s what makes you happy but if you are not yet married to him, tone in down a bit please. Even the Bible says a beautiful woman without discretion, is like a diamond ring in a pig’s snout (Proverbs 11:22). And if you are married to him; it’s okay to lavish honour and accolades on your spouse on the social media or to your friends but do it more in reality. Overall, my darling Wives & Wives-in-waiting, be discreet, keep the details of your relationship private as much as you can. Times have changed, social media is now people’s best friends & town-crier spot. Just because you see the ‘likes’, doesn’t mean some people are not mocking you, so don’t dwell on it. By all means, ignore your haters but keep “Bae” private until he makes you his wife and when you are his wife, be discreet with what you post online about your relationship. Anyway, let me stop here for now, I hope you all get the point. This is just my opinion and I am aware that it is not for everyone. A word is enough for the wise, may God help us all.

WE KNOW WHEN YOU'VE LOST INTEREST

It’s kind of funny…the things guys think we don’t know.

Like when they fall off. Stop texting as much. Stop calling as much. Slowly begin to pull back. Even if it’s ever so slowly…a little at a time. We know. Even if we don’t want to admit it to ourselves, we know what it means.

It can be even a slight withdrawal of time and attention, and we feel it. As women, nothing gets by us. We’ve been around this block a few times before. We know that you’re not just “having a busy day.” We know that you didn’t leave your phone at home. We know it’s not just simply that you have your mind on other things. We KNOW.

We know there’s someone else now on the receiving end of those texts and calls. We know your time and attention is going somewhere, just not to us. We know when we’re being juggled. We know when we’re being ghosted on. We know when the energy shifts from us to someone else, no matter how subtly. We know when you’ve lost interest. We KNOW.

It’s kind of funny…the things guys think we don’t know.

We know. We always know. And we might let you slide out of our DM’s as easily as you slid in. We might look the other way or let it go or choose not to let you know that we know.

We might even let you off the hook for choosing to disappear instead of just telling us you were going.

But we know. Trust that.

We’re women. Nothing gets by us.

Especially a man on his way out the door.

MARRIAGE WONT SOLVE YOUR LONELINESS

Hi Ladies,

It’s another Saturday, lots of weddings to attend and someone out there might just be feeling left out because it’s not their turn, or they might be feeling left out because they don’t have a “Bae”, whereas this shouldn’t be the case. To buttress my point, I’ll say this….

“Marriage doesn’t solve your Loneliness, so don’t rush into Marriage because you are lonely. There are so many Lonely-Married people and you don’t want to be one of them.”

You see, I have heard a lot of singles ladies say they are lonely because they are not in a relationship like some of their peers, some of them also feel the solution is to get married but I disagree because Marriage is not the solution to loneliness. I have heard of many cases where a Wife is so lonely and lacks companionship in her home, despite being married and living with her spouse. So, please ladies, don’t rush into marriage because it’s trending or because you attend weddings every Saturday and feel like it’s the next achievement on your bucket list. Marry because you are ready and because you are fully prepared for what it entails. Trust me, it’s beyond a 6-hour event, so please prepare. If you feel lonely, get busy. Get involved in productive activities, go on holiday, hang out with good friends, watch a movie; read a book and work on your purpose. Enjoy the free time you have now and maximise it. Don’t let your age / family pressure you. Relax, be patient; you will get married at the right time according to God’s will.

GIVE HIM SOME SPACE

Sometimes, when a lady is not in a relationship and doesn’t have many friends, she could get lonely if she doesn’t engage her mind in other entertaining / profitable activities and that’s understandable. However, there are a lot of ladies who are generally very “needy / clingy”, that they feel a man is the solution to their loneliness but it really isn’t because there are times the man will be busy and he won’t have their time as much as they want. Then these ladies begin to feel like he is cheating or he doesn’t have time for them anymore, so they track his life down with phone calls / text messages on repeat…

Wives-in-waiting, this should not be the case. Please give the guy some breathing space; you are not yet married to him. If you feel he is cheating on you; don’t worry, pray about it; I am sure God will expose him. Besides, if a man wants to be with you, see you or hear from you; he will call you, so don’t give yourself hypertension because he hasn’t picked your calls all day; maybe he is busy. Although some men, seriously need to work on communicating with their women more. They need to re-assure her and make her feel secure. Regardless ladies, don’t stress; just get busy, engage yourself in some work, even if you don’t have a job. Let him miss you too, and don’t be resentful by not answering his phone call after you gave him 5 or 10 missed calls back-to-back; hear him out first. Lastly Ladies, men love their space, so let him have some “me-time”. Besides, there is always one Man who needs your attention and will always have your time 24/7; His name is JESUS, so cast your cares upon Him. 

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5 important men's fashion rules to live by

Here we have listed six important men’s fashion rules to live by which should at least clear up some confusion about a few things.

1. Always match your belt with your shoes
This is a good rule to follow and it keeps things simple. It’s best to stay with traditional colours such a black, dark brown or a rich tan. Other colours will be difficult to match, and generally speaking, should be avoided. If you wear sneakers every day that probably means you are wearing jeans in which case I suggest trying a belt made of fabric or something equally as casual, but please avoid dress belts with jeans and sneakers. If you wear suspenders, I am compelled to ask you why, but I digress. Just don’t wear a belt and suspenders together, it’s one or the other.

2. Don’t always match ties and shirts
For a while, the solid-colored shirt with a tie of the same (or slightly-off) colour was seen everywhere. This is now a somewhat dated look. Try mixing things up a little and experiment with colours. Ties are great way to express yourself, but keeping it tasteful is your best bet. You can’t go wrong with diagonal stripes, modern polka-dots, plaids and subtle patterns. Just make sure your tie compliments your shirt, suit, sweater or whatever you will be wearing it with. Novelty ties are best avoided since the novelty is short lived.

3. Socks
The more official rule on socks is that they should match the colour of your pants, though preferably not the exact same shade unless, of course, you are wearing black in which case it’s okay. However, I personally like to wear socks with patterns, such as stripes in various colours. But I do try to match my socks with my pants and shoes. Note: Although it should be obvious, white socks should be reserved for the gym.

4. Watches
Watches are the single most important accessory a man can own. I really suggest investing in one good watch that suits your lifestyle and taste. However, if you are someone who likes to own more than one watch, wear the appropriate timepiece for your outfit: black band with black shoes and belt; brown band with brown shoes and belt; and silver band for either.

5. Eyeglasses
Eyeglasses are one of the few ways you can really express yourself. I have worn glasses for many years and I love having a few pair in different styles. They don’t have to just serve a function but can enhance your overall look. Do your best to find a pair of glasses that not only compliments the shape of your face but also expresses your personality. Ask people who wear glasses for a place where you can get good advice about what shape and style look best for your face shape and features.

6 Reasons to start avoiding potato chips

Reasons not to eat potato chips
To understand the nature of stackable chips, forget the belief that they are made from actual potatoes in any recognizable way. One company to avoid taxes levied against luxury foods once even argued that the potato content of their chips was so low that they technically are not even potato chips. So if they are not made of potatoes, what are we eating exactly?
Potato chips are full of cancer causing chemical

One of the most suspicious ingredients in potato chips is not intentionally added, but is a byproduct of the processing. Neurotoxin chemical- acryl amide causing cancer potentially is created when foods rich in carbohydrate are cooked at high temperatures, whether fried, baked, toasted or roasted. As a general rule, the chemical is formed when food is heated enough to produce a fairly dry and brown- yellow surface. Hence, it can be found in potato chips.

Potato chips are high in calories
If you have ever checked the serving size for chips you would notice it is usually like ten chips for 145 calories. Whoever eats only ten chips? You know you have never done that! So the bottom line is you want to avoid eating potato chips. Also avoid tortilla and corn based chips. These chips can cause all kinds of health problems like clogged arteries, weaker heart and dozens of other things you do not want. If you stop eating chips you will have a much better chance of losing belly fat. It should come as no surprise- research has shown that the more potato chips people includes in their diet the more weight they gain.
Potato chips have no nutritional benefit at all

If you regularly consume chips as part of your diet, you are not taking as many nutrients as you should. Chips are in fact low in vitamins and minerals, potato chips have no vitamin C and a small amount of protein, they tend to displace things in the diet that are full of nutrients. Eating healthy snacks can help make up for any nutritional lack at meal times, so if you choose chips instead of snacks with a high nutrient quality, you won’t get this benefit.

Potato chips cause high blood pressure
The sodium content in chips negatively impacts your cardiovascular health. A high intake of sodium causes an increase in blood pressure that can lead to stroke, heart failure, coronary heart and kidney disease. Potato chips generally have between 130 and 170 milligrams of sodium per ounce. One bag of chips certainly contains more than a single ounce, so many of you consume more sodium than you realize while eating chips. Most people should limit their salt consumption to 2,200 milligrams per day, while individuals over 50 and anyone with high blood pressure, diabetes and kidney disease should not eat more than 1,400 milligrams per day.

Potato chips cause high cholesterol as they are cooked in trans fat oil
Frequent consumption of chips can contribute to high cholesterol levels because of the amount and type of fat found in chips. Most chips are fried deeply, a process that creates trans fats, the most dangerous one. In addition, the oils used for frying chips are often saturated fats that also contribute to high levels of cholesterol. A 2010 study published in one journal found that high levels of trans fats in the bloodstream were associated with high levels of LDL or bad cholesterol and an increased risk of coronary disease. High levels of trans fat in your diet are correlated to high levels in your blood.

Potato chips cause dehydration
There is also science that shows that chips cause dehydration and even sore throats. Everyone who eats potato chips should drink more water than usually, regardless of whether they are thirsty or not.

High Heels: 8 ways to avoid foot pains.

Here are a few tips to help make high heels comfortable.

1. Cushion up: There are many gel pads and cushion inserts you can use to pad your heels every day. If you can’t find any around you, improvise. Just do something to get rid of that ball sting.

2. Break in your shoes: The entrance of a new pair of heels into my life sees me strutting around the house trying to loosen them up before I launch out into the deep. This is to avoid hunching in pain only 10 minutes after stepping out.

3. Take baby steps: When walking in your heels, take smaller steps so there is less pressure on your foot. Long strides create extra weight which speeds up the chances of aches and pains. Also try never to run in heels!

4. Try the tape trick: When you wear your high heels, try to tape your 3rd and 4th toe together. This will allow the front of your feet to “fit” better in your shoes (no more painful toes!)

5. Get some backup: Always go out with backup flats. She who rocks her heels and later changes to flats will live to rock them another day! No jokes!

6. Remember to limit yourself: Don’t wear heels every day, unless you want to have problems in the future such as correcting bunions, ingrown toenails, replace worn out toe-joints, knee or even back surgery.

7. Pamper your feet: End your high heel wearing sessions with a warm foot bath. Fill a tub full of warm water and just relax and soak your feet, massaging them gently.

8. Moisturise: To wrap this up, moisturise your feet before sleeping, further massaging them. All that stiff movement in your heels can lead to dry, rough heels and dry lines all over your foot. If you feel like taking it a step further after moisturising, wear socks to sleep to really let your foot ‘soak’ in the moisture and recover from all that pain.

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FOR HEALTHY TEETH, DON'T BRUSH AFTER EATING

Don't brush your teeth immediately after meals and drinks, especially if they were acidic. Acidic foods—citrus fruits, sports drinks, tomatoes, soda (both diet and regular)—can soften tooth enamel "like wet sandstone," says Howard R. Gamble, immediate past president of the Academy of General Dentistry. Brushing your teeth at this stage can speed up acid's effect on your enamel and erode the layer underneath. Gamble suggests waiting 30 to 60 minutes before brushing. Don't say I didn't informed you...... Wink